A Coach's Reflections

January 11, 2010


Filed under: Tools — Tags: , , , — Janine Daniels - A Coach's Reflections @ 6:21 pm

I’m not big on New Year’s resolutions. Which may sound ironic coming from a coach.  The reason is that a resolution is usually just a vaguely formed wish or idea, and is very rarely planned and clarified. And usually ends up creating guilt or self flagellation for not doing what was actually just a half-baked idea anyway. What our family does instead, is choose a word for the coming year that summarises the headspace with which we’d like to live the year.

Some of the words I’ve chosen over the past years have been words like ‘consolidation’, ‘fun’,’ focussed’ and ‘passion’. This year my word is ‘trust’. As a recovering control freak, this is an area that is often difficult for me. I like to know the outcome will be as I desire it before I’ve even started the process. I’m impatient. I often create additional work for myself because I check and double check things. I worry about things in the future – over which I have no control in the present. So, this year, I will keep in the foreground of my mind, my intention to trust. That everything will be as it will be.

What this thinking pattern does is keep us out of our present, always watching and planning and dreaming about the future. Now here’s the real irony. If we don’t live in the present, and plan in the present for the future, our future will never be what we want it to be.

And for a recovering control freak, that’s music to my ears. Because all we can control is our response to this moment, this situation. There is no way we can control our future. But we can certainly plan for it. What are you planning for this year ?


  1. Brilliant. From one RCF (recovering control freak) to another, it is really difficult to let things go. When I moved to Riebeek Kasteel i found it extremely difficult initially as everything and everyone was foreign and I took on the motto “It is what it is”. I had to learn not to always question the future, the present or the past or why something isn’t exactly the way it SHOULD (which actually means the world according to Yvette)be as I could not control every situation in this tiny town. Every day is a new day and every day I have to tell myself to trust the process: Let Go and Let God…. Love you lots!

    Comment by Yvette Puchert — January 11, 2010 @ 9:06 pm

  2. No truer words spoken. Thanks Janine for sharing your wonderful insights and wisdom xx

    Comment by Nicole Kretzschmar — January 12, 2010 @ 9:56 am

  3. Beautiful, and a really cool idea to choose a word for the year. This is also a big issue for me, just trusting that things are as they should be and people are as they are. I don’t know why that’s so difficult!?
    PS Hi Yvette! so nice to hear something about you (sorry Janine to use your blog to chat to someone else, I know, I must get facebook!x)

    Comment by Kay Curtis — January 18, 2010 @ 11:49 am

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