A Coach's Reflections

February 14, 2011

RELOCATION 101 – LESSONS SO FAR …

Filed under: Insights — Tags: , , , — Janine Daniels - A Coach's Reflections @ 4:35 am

The last 5 months of my life have been hell. Sheer, unadulterated, out of control, control-freak, anal-person hell. They’ve also been the reason I haven’t posted a blog for so long.

So, this is what happened … 2010 was a year of reaping rewards. My coaching practice had grown to a large enough size to be challenging time-wise, my husband James’ work was going along swimmingly, and our sons were in a phenomenal school. Like us they had awesome friends, they were active; busy with sport and social activities  …. And then the universe remembered us saying at some stage in the past, that ‘… we’d like an adventure …’

So in September 2010 we got back from a breathtakingly beautiful and peaceful barging holiday in France only for my husband to receive an invitation to look at a potential job offer in Singapore. He resigned in October. We sold our house in November. We moved to Singapore in the first week of January. The boys have been at school for 3 weeks. No blog ???  Hell no bloody time to take a breath !!!

Ok, so the objective of this blog has never been to tell my life story, but is, from a coach’s perspective, to reflect on lessons I witness and observe. So what have I learnt through this process ?

  • I’ve learnt personally, and observed objectively, that no matter how sorted you think you are, there are times you are going to need help. Ask for it.
  • People have opened their arms and homes to us, welcomed us in and helped us become part of a social structure – we’ve learnt to embrace that and be so grateful for it. I wonder how often that could have happened at ‘home’ but we never saw it because we had an established network and support group. Our eyes have become open to hands of friendship.
  • If we hadn’t all learnt this one already – here’s a repeat (and one that I’m currently battling with).  Trying to control it all makes you ill !!
  • You will get what you set your mind to if it’s really meaningful and important to you. (We’re not talking half-baked flights of fancy here). If it’s really important, you will respond to those opportunities that make your dreams your new reality.
  • Finally, and for me this is the over-riding observation because it relates to our thinking patterns.  Your experience is shaped by your filters – see the good in people, the situation or the experience – and that’s how it will be for you. Look for the negative, how it’s (bad) different, how it’s not the same. And you’ll end up yearning.

So am I yearning ?

No.

Am I missing my parents and treasured friends?  OMG.  More than words can say. But we speak regularly and I know it’s only a matter of time before we hold each other again.

But are we having an adventure?  You betcha, and it’s only just begun ….

7 Comments »

  1. And what an adventure it will be. Great posting Janine. All complete TRUTH.

    Comment by Owen Leed — February 14, 2011 @ 12:38 pm

    • I couldn’t have said it better myself Janine!

      It’s a truly awesome adventure! Well done Daniels family….you are doing just fine x

      Comment by Jill Docherty — February 14, 2011 @ 3:31 pm

  2. beautifully written my friend, not one day goes by without me thinking of you, missing you and sending love.

    Comment by Michelle Mynhardt — February 14, 2011 @ 10:53 pm

  3. Dear Janine

    What truths! I am almost excited myself for your journey – what an opportunity and with such blessings! I trust that it is only going to get better and bigger!
    Love from SA

    Comment by Rene Barnard — February 16, 2011 @ 9:30 am

  4. Thank you making this very valuable point. I yearned a bit after my relocation one and a half years ago. Being greatful for what I do have, rather than focusing on what I don’t has kept me moving forward.

    Comment by Kate Rafter — February 17, 2011 @ 5:30 am

  5. Thanks for your honesty and truth in this piece, J. And for the reminders and challenges to us too. Proud of you xxx

    Comment by Liza Stead — February 17, 2011 @ 7:01 am

    • Oh Janine you are so brave and doing so well!!! think of you often qnd miss you.

      Comment by Noelene — February 24, 2011 @ 5:17 pm


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